Angry Heart Journaling

The purposes of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a man of understanding draws them out. Proverbs 20:5

Do you understand your own heart–the desires, longings and idols that may reside there? Do you understand what is stirring in there that causes you to get angry? This Sunday as I speak about anger I will suggest the practice of “Anger Journaling” or “Heart Journaling.” Actually, both of these forms of journaling are very similar. They are written of in Lou Priolo’s book The Heart of Anger. While the book is particularly written to help prevent and cure anger within children I have found much of the counsel within the book applies to adults as well. The advice to journal is one such example. Journaling enables a person to understand those things that trigger their anger, as well as gain insight to the “deep waters” of their own heart.

Priolo sets before the reader four basic questions in the “Heart Journal”. They are:
1. What happened that provoked me to anger? (What are the circumstances that led to my becoming angry?)
2. What did I say to myself (in my heart) when I became angry? (What did I want, desire or long for when I became angry?)
3. What does the Bible say about what I said to myself when I became angry? (What does the Bible say about what I wanted?)
4. What should I have said to myself when I became angry? (What should I have wanted more than my own selfish and idolatrous desire?)

Yes, it takes courage to ask those hard questions if you are a person who struggles with anger. Oh, and please understand when I speak of anger I do not merely mean explosive anger. The Bible speaks of the brooding, smoldering internal anger as well as the explosive, external anger. The freezing-out anger is not more healthy or honorable than the shouting-out anger. Followers of Jesus are told to rid themselves of both of these forms of anger (Ephesians 4:31; Colossians 3:7).

However, ridding your life of anger is not easy, particularly if you’re developed life-long patterns of expressing anger. It takes the courage to look within your heart. It may require the discipline to journal like Priolo suggests. Above all, it takes continually yielding to the power of the Holy Spirit in all of this. This is why I think it is so difficult for a person who does not have the indwelling Christ to overcome anger. Yet, Jesus came to transform our lives from the inside out. He came to change our hearts so we can think, desire, speak, and act like those who belong to Him. And at the moment of salvation Jesus gives His followers the Spirit of God to empower them for all of life—including overcoming our anger. May you and I take whatever steps are needed to allow Christ to be Lord of our anger and “the purposes of our heart.”

Striving to be “pure of heart,”
Pastor Scott